Tuesday, June 14, 2016

I’ma Need A Lot More Than A “Yes.”


It makes me sad that sexual assault and consent is something we have to talk about in this day and age, but as the recent Stanford Sexual Assault trial has show us, some bastards apparently don't get it. I won't talk about that any more because I can feel my blood burning just thinking about it.

Schaffer the Darklord nails it with this track about sex and consent.

No means no. 

A lack of no isn't a yes. 


And a yes isn't as the same as an enthusiastic yes.




Lyrics

Ooh, whatchoo wanna do, boo? What you get into?
I just wanna bounce up out and have some fun with you
There’s something wild behind your smile, I see it trickle through
Maybe we can teach each other a new trick or two

So where to? My place or yours?
Or anywhere where we can get behind closed doors?
I’ll gladly go and grab us up a cab, but before that
I must ensure that everything is well above board, yeah

Here’s my full name, and here’s my address
In case you want to send them to your best friend in a text
And let them know where you’re going, who you’re with and when you leave
Or even ask them if there’s anything they’ve heard about me

We’ve had a couple drinks tonight, are you impaired?
Are you stumbling? Are you fucked up? Or are you aware
And coherent and quite capable of making decisions?
Then, cool, but I’ll keep asking for conviction

And we go one, two, three and to the four
Though your words say “yes,” I’ma need a little more
I know you want it when you react with intent
But first I need that enthusiastic consent

And we go four, three, two and to the one
I’ll be checking checking in even after we’re done
But before we progress, stop, before we undress
I’ma need a lot more than a “yes”

I don’t see the mere fact you flirt with me
As a sealed contract of our sexual certainty
It doesn’t matter what you said when you were sexting me
It only matters how you say it when you’re next to me

And I don’t care if we’ve done it before
Or if earlier we made out on the dance floor
For if tonight you change your mind, fall asleep or say “stop”
Then that’s when this stops

But this isn’t just about your consent to my desires
Let’s talk about what you want and what lights your fire
You want me begging? (I’m into it) In leggings? (I’m into it)
Are you interested in pegging? (into it)

This could be amazing once concerns are assuaged
And we’re good, giving and game and on the same page
Everything in black and white and crystal clearer than day
No blurred lines, no shades of grey

And we go one, two, three and to the four
Though your words say “yes,” I’ma need a little more
I know you want it when you react with intent
But first I need that enthusiastic consent

And we go four, three, two and to the one
I’ll be checking checking in even after we’re done
But before we progress, stop, before we undress
I’ma need a lot more than a “yes”

And we go five, six, seven to the eight
“No means no” is never up for debate
And the lack of a “no” isn’t the same as a “yes”
And a “yes” isn’t the same as an “oh my god, yes”

And if that sentiment is expressed
We can indulge to excess or only caress
But before we progress, stop, before we undress
I’ma need a lot more than a “yes”

When I ask “you wanna?” you say “yes”
When I ask “this ok?” you say “oh, yes”
When I ask “into it?” you say “fuck yes”
When I ask “keep going?” you say “no”

Ok, then this is done

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